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Sharon Martin, LCSW is a licensed psychotherapist, writer, speaker, and media contributor on emotional health and relationships. Her psychotherapy practice in San Jose, CA specializes in helping individuals overcome codependency and perfectionism and learn to accept and love themselves. Sharon is the author of two e-books: Navigating the Codependency Maze and Setting Boundaries without Guilt and writes the popular blog Happily Imperfect for PsychCentral.com.
In this episode:
- Boundaries can look different for introverts than extroverts
- What are People Pleasing behaviors
- How the “minor” people pleasing behaviors can lead to bigger issues
- Finding your voice and living in your values
- Being in midlife and rediscovering who you are as you establish boundaries
- Staying on your path or your side of the sidewalk
- The negative effects of poor boundaries as an introverted woman
- Giving yourself permission to self-reflect on what boundaries are working and where you need to establish some
- Shifting your thinking from either/or, all about them or all about me, and embracing the gray area
- Preventing or ending the resentment with boundaries
- How anger can be a warning sign that you need a boundary
- How our culture, parental figures, world messages or bad experiences play into the mindset of people pleasing, taking care of others, putting others first, etc
- Managing your fears that arise from making changes in your life
- Making incremental changes in one area of your life
- Improving your self-esteem and confidence
- Learning to lean into the discomfort
- The rewards of healthy boundaries-deepening relationships with self and others
- An alternative statement to give at the time of a request
- Unplugging from your cellphone for self-care and overwhelm reduction
- Sharon shares her personal insights
If you haven’t listened to ending the Good Girl Grows Up episode I invite you to check it out!
