Ready to break free of over-functioning and codependency?

Nicole Burgess is a Soul-Led Leadership Coach for women in midlife who are ready to go from perfectionism, people-pleasing, and performing to compassion, confidence, and connection. 

You can have ME-aning and fulfillment in your life without jumping into other people’s lanes!

In this episode: Codependency

  • Sign up for updates on a new group coaching program for women in midlife feeling unfulfilled and wondering what is missing (email: podcast (at) nicoleburgesscoaching (dot) com)
  • Under and Over functioning by Harriet Lerner
  • Melody Beattie’s definition of codependency
  • Robert Subby’s definition
  • Where their behaviors stem from
  • Perfectionism Series (ep 72, 73, and 74)
  • Nicole gives an example of overly anxious parents
  • Low self-esteem is often associated with codependency
  • Examples of codependency behaviors
  • External vs internal locus of control
  • Have poor boundaries
  • Feeling your anger ( Episode 122 Three Benefits of anger)
  • Remembering you are an intelligent, resourceful, and an action taking woman
  • Nicole shares friends struggle with over-functioning
  • Example of a family intentionally creating chaos
  • What is the drama triangle
  • How this behavior can impact your professional life
  • Good girl persona (Episode 2)
  • Self-forgiveness and leaning into the unknown
  • What am I feeling?
  • What do I want in this relationship or from a specific event?
  • Begin to assert your needs and wants
  • State your truth
  • You are not responsible FOR other people’s emotions and behavior
  • Create a self-care plan
  • Can show compassion and concern without rescuing
  • Accept the reality of the moment
  • Signs where you are not using boundaries (episode 12 boundaries; episode 51 looking for permission)
  • No longer living in self-preservation mode and live your life
  • Not being reactionary or lack of any reaction
  • Managing your energy

Action steps:

  • Where do you feel like you are out of control in your life?
  • Who or what events do you try to control?
  • What is one action step you can begin this week to change that?
  • Write down any of the codependent behaviors resonated with you

Resources Mentioned:

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Codependent No More: How to Stop Controlling Others and Start Caring for Yourself by Melody Beattie

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